Family and Divorce Mediation
“The home and the family are the basic social institution everywhere in the world. When the home improves, the whole world will be better.”
~Sathya Sai Baba
What is Mediation?
Mediation is a conflict resolution approach that seeks to maintain and/or enhance relationships between disputing parties. Mediation is not therapy, but it can be healing. It is particularly well-suited for working with families. Mediation can be extremely effective even in very high conflict situations.
Families do not need to be experiencing divorce for mediation to be appropriate. Mediation is based on establishing win/win outcomes and deepening understanding between parties in conflict. Disputing parties are empowered to resolve their own problems with the help of a neutral third party known as a mediator. The mediator creates a safe and neutral environment in which family members tell their stories, define their problems, and collaboratively solve them.
Family mediation is appropriate anytime there is a conflict that may impact the quality of life within a family. Such issues may include teen/parent problems, divorce and separation, parenting and co-parenting, eldercare, and transitions involving the buying and selling of real estate.
In Colorado, divorcing couples are almost always ordered to mediate disputes for two hours as a part of the divorce process. They can also choose to mediate their entire divorce. Even when mediating an entire divorce, one can still have their attorney review all agreements before finalizing them. Amani clients can also choose to have their divorce co-mediated. This means having me, a mental health practitioner and mediator, and Rich Lipuma, a family law attorney and mediator, work together to handle your case and guide you through the entire divorce process.
Child Focused Divorce Mediation, Parent Coordinating, and Desision Making
Mediation is especially appropriate when there are children involved in a divorce or separation process. It allows parents, as opposed to the courts, to craft logical agreements that they themselves intend to uphold. This not only reduces emotional and financial stress, it also lends itself to creating sustainable agreements that best serve the interests of children.
At Amani, we mediate Child Focused Divorces. This means we use education, data, interactive websites, and targeted goal setting strategies to help parents collaborate for the sake of their children. We have been very successful with our approach, even in high conflict cases. We cannot emphasize enough, how valuable mediation is in protecting your children throughout the divorce and/or separation process!
You may wish to view our Divorce Resources for suggested reading and websites for divorcing parents and children.
Mediation After Divorce
We also work with parents after they have divorced. We take a holistic, long term approach to serving as a court appointed parent coordinator and/or decision maker. We use mediation, coaching, and teaching to help parents make decisions in the best interest of their children. We present parents with data based research on which to make decisions. Our goal is to offer parents conflict resolution and parenting skills that enhance their lives as well as those of their children. We are experienced working with families of all different cultures and enjoy understanding and meeting their unique needs.
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