What will actually happen in mediation, and how long will it take?
Most mediations begin with both parents in the room. You can, however, talk to me privately at any time throughout the mediation. I will present an overview of the process including procedures, paperwork, and ground rules. Then, I will ask you to define quality of life goals for your children. We will use these goals as a guidepost for crafting your Parenting Plan and Separation Agreement.
Next, each of you shares what he or she wants to have happen in regard to specific conflict issues. Then, you will be asked a series of questions. The questions will give everyone a clearer picture of underlying concerns and problems related to the issues. You will then start problem solving. This is what makes mediation so valuable. YOU, create your own agreement. The agreement fits your children and your lifestyle, and you know it is the best possible solution for right now. You can focus on your children’s wellbeing. At the end of the mediation we rigorously reality test your agreement to make sure it is practical, clear, and strong enough to help you stay out of future conflicts. Most mediation sessions take place for two hours. It usually takes between four and six sessions to mediate a full divorce.